Transformation Series Part II: Coping With Loss Through Change
When moving through change, we are inevitably faced with loss. Loss of friends, places, material possessions, loss of our old self… Coping with the loss of what no longer serves us is a key component of moving successfully and gracefully through a transformative phase. We have to allow ourselves to feel the pain of these things leaving our life and fill those holes with love, light, and authenticity. This is not an easy task. Loss is painful, lonely, and can leave us feeling empty and afraid of our newness. Here are some mindful ways to cope with loss through change:
Filling New Open Spaces with Love
When we begin to shed our layers we are acutely aware of the spaces that are left empty within us. It is incredibly important to fill these empty spaces with love as we work to slowly, eventually fill them with activities, passions, beliefs, and people that are in line with the life we are creating for ourselves. Remind yourself that you are loved, protected, and guided on every step in your journey. Practice self-love by beginning and ending your day with positive mantras and reminders of all the wonderful qualities that make you who you are. Buy yourself flowers. Give your inner-child a hug. Take a bath. Go to a yoga class. Take a moment to check in with the inner you and honor what you find there. Know that you are surrounded by love, despite the temporary feelings of loss. This will pass.
Remind Yourself Where You’re Going
As we move through the stages of loss we become so distracted by our grief and pain that we often forget where we are going! Always allow yourself to feel what comes up for you, cry when you need to, practice self-care, and honor these emotions. However, within this space, it is equally as important to remind yourself of your WHY. Why are you taking steps to release elements in your life that are no longer serving you? Why did you begin this journey in the first place? What painful parts are you leaving behind? How will your life be happier, healthier, and more beautifully you because of these changes? What do you see for yourself at the end of this transformative period? Create a vision board. Make a list. Find a way to remind yourself of where you are going. This helps us to maintain excitement and hope even in moments when we are at the height of grieving what we are letting go.
Celebrate Space Being Created
When we are experiencing significant change, we create space within ourselves and within our life. This space is brimming with potential to be filled with anything and everything exquisitely, unequivocally you! The opportunity to create a life that is built on a foundation of authenticity and inner-truth is exciting! Celebrate this! Remind yourself that you are giving yourself the gift of living your life for YOU, without the interference of others expectations or the noise of their opinions. Celebrate your strength in creating change and participating fully in your life. You are made of magic. You are creating on opportunity for your life to reflect that.
~Sarah
